March 28, 2016 Harriet Brookes

Why he cancels your first date?

You are waiting for the perfect first date with him but suddenly he cancels your date…You don’t know why he change his mind… is he trying to avoid you or has he a real reason for this cancellation?

There could be various reasons behind the cancellation of the much anticipated first date. When a guy cancels a first date, it is natural to be disappointed and speculate about the reasons. However, do not get too much entangled in finding out the reasons, since that may cause you to doubt the intention of the guy. Try and relax as soon as you get to know about the cancellation. This will actually help you to delve deep into the situation and think from the proper perspective.

When the first date gets cancelled, the immediate reaction is anger. It is quite natural to feel angry, but the guy might have a real problem at hand and you should at least hear him out. This will save you from feeling unimportant and it will also help to clear any kind of misunderstanding. However, if the guy has stood you up, which is the worst way for cancellation of the first date, you should demand a reason.

While it is really disappointing to have your first date cancelled, you can actually make out the reason for cancellation if you are a little attentive. The way in which the guy cancelled the first date could tell you a lot about the cause. If he sent you a last minute text message, or left message on any of the social networking sites casually, then you are not as important to him as he is to you. You could also doubt his intentions, if he does not personally take the effort of cancellation, but informs through his friends.

On the other hand, if the guy has a real issue to deal with, then he will call you up personally and let you know the reason behind the cancellation. This will prove that he is interested in you, but due to some emergency, he was compelled to bring about the cancellation of the first date. You will also realize his honest intentions, if he sends flowers and asks for rescheduling the date. Moreover, if the guy asks to delay the first date rather than mentioning the word ‘cancel’, you can surely give him some benefit of doubt. Under such circumstances, you can think of rescheduling the first date with that guy.

Although there are some ways to tell the date wasn’t important to him:

Canceling may be unavoidable. However, some methods of cancellation make it clear that the date was not as important to him as it was to you.

  • He sends a text that he cannot make it at the last minute.
  • He posts a public note on Facebook, MySpace or Twitter announcing he can’t make it.
  • His ex-girlfriend, sister, or mutual friend cancels for him.
  • He sends an email, an instant message, or a direct message via social networking with no explanation.
  • He stands you up. This is by the far the worst and the least forgivable (unless it’s due to an emergency) .


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