Are you in a relationship but you also like flirting with other persons? You like meeting new people eventhough you love your mate?
Ever heard the lyric, “I only have eyes for you?” Well, what happens when you get into a relationship, but still seem to notice other attractive people? Does settling down mean that you need to become blinded by love?
Over time, sheltering yourself from anyone you may find attractive can cause resentment in a relationship and make you think they are holding you back. If you have to hold yourself back from just talking to someone you find attractive in fear that you may cheat, maybe it is time to reevaluate your relationship: just talking shouldn’t be a problem if that’s furthest you take it. Friendly banter can help you feel comfortable going out without your boyfriend or girlfriend and make you happier when you do see them…
Nearly 50 percent of those polled by the Health and Wellness Association reported feeling young and sexy when they are flirting, and another 36.8 percent said flirting gives them a natural high.
Flirting can actually make you feel sexier in your relationship. Knowing that others find you attractive can boost your confidence and make you feel more attractive.
By no means am I promoting trying to pick up everyone you see if you are in a relationship. As great as flirting can be for your confidence, remember the golden rule of “treat others how you want to be treated.” Don’t throw yourself over someone else right in front of your boyfriend or girlfriend, as this can cause one of relationships biggest problems, jealousy. Make sure you don’t cross lines from flirting into cheating.
But, it is quite possible (and absolutely normal) you will feel a minor connection with someone else down the road. When I say, “flirting” with others, I don’t mean picking up a bunch of people and getting their phone numbers. There is quite a fine line between “flirting” and “cheating.” Even flirting has its obvious boundaries; one shouldn’t be exchanging phone numbers and going out with someone else.
Once you approach and talk to that “someone else,” you will notice that once the conversation is over, your attraction will slightly fade. We’ve all heard the saying, “You want what you can’t have.” The major reason we like others while we’re in relationships is because we subconsciously believe we can’t talk, flirt orhang out with someone we’re attracted to. Therefore, the thought of cheating keeps growing and we start looking for exits in order to break free. The solution to silencing those thoughts is to flirt, flirt, flirt. Once you do, you will realize the idea of being “trapped” was just all in your head.
Being separate individuals means we are all free. You and your partner cannot act as one unit in all parts of life. You are free to flirt with, talk to and like other people. Not crossing the line of flirting into cheating has to do with respect and your freedom won’t extend that far if you respect your partner enough. By being one unit 24/7, your partner cannot and will not be able to continue giving you the attention and confidence boosts you need. But, others certainly can! When you flirt with other people, you’ll get an enormous boost of self-confidence from knowing you’re still desirable and not “trapped” with your partner.
The most important rule about flirting while in a relationship is to flirt with yourboyfriend or girlfriend. Relationships can get boring and too comfortable if you do not try and keep them exciting. Hit on your significant other while you are out and act like they are someone you are trying to pick up, for example; it can keep things fun and will help you maintain a healthy relationship.