December 22, 2015 Harriet Brookes

Me, my ego and my love…

How many of you have broken up from a relationship because you could not sacrifise your big ego?

The ego it’s the part of us that feels the need to be special. It’s that part of us that seeks approval – and by very definition it is a part of us that feels lacking in some way. Being egotistical is generally considered negative, while having high levels of self-esteem is positive. Ego is not actually bad because it gives us an identity and self-worth. Our ego will keep us from being pushed around and manipulated.  However, ego will cause relationship conflicts if we allow it to control our perception and decision.

Couples often are not willing to compromise with their ego. Each one would like to have his or her own way. In case of an  argument, they would not like to accept the fact that they are at fault. Such kind of  an attitude leads to disharmony and eventually a breakup. Since ego is  a major cause of a relationship breaking down, it is better to understand how ego can affect a relationship.

#.Each partner feels superior to the other and is not willing to listen to the other person.

#.Making compromises may be difficult. In order to make a compromise, one has to forgot one’s ego. Some couples may have problems doing so.

People with big egos are often insecure and trying to cover up those insecurities by pretending to be important or better than everyone else. Those with big egos lack confidence and self-love. Conversely, those with high self-esteem have confidence in their own abilities, know their shortcomings and love themselves.

Let’s see what can we do to reduce our big ego and move on to a healthy relationship:

1.Give more of your time and talent to others. This  will help you  see the needs of other people. Practice generousity with selfless motives.

2.Give more love. As you love more, give more to a relationship and expect less, you will develop a more fulfilling relationship.

3.Be open to differences. During conversations, just listen. Accept and respect the different opinion and value each person’s uniqueness.

4.Stop comlaining. Complaining keeps us locked in negativity. Who wants to hang out with someone who complains all the time?

5. Accept the rejection and failure. To combat the fear of rejection, you need to love yourself and know that you deserve positivity in your life. You must accept that life isn’t without failures.

True love can only happen when a relationship is completely free of ego, so it is the perfect test of your relationship’s foundations. The paradox is that true love is quite easily created in the mind by the very thing that wants it to be sincere… your ego!


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