Ussually after a break up, depression is knock on your door. The feelings of sadness and depression after a breakup can be very hard.
Our relationships with others are the most important things in our lives and, when they come to define a good deal of who we are and how we live, it can seem like our lives are falling apart when we get dumped.
It is perfectly normal to feel miserable after you’ve been dumped. Don’t try to fight it and be strong. Let yourself feel everything that you are experiencing. Bottling up your emotions isn’t a healthy way to deal with them in the long term. Eventually they can build up and force their way out at inappropriate times. Let the emotions run their course. You’ll feel better and be able to move on faster.
After you’re done crying or feeling angry at your ex, you will probably still feel like you are missing something in your life, especially if you and your ex were very close or were seeing each other for a long time.
It really helps you to have some kind of creative way to work out your feelings.
If you want to get your life back on track, you need to force yourself to get out of the house and start doing things. This can be hard, especially at first, but you can start small. Even if it’s just something simple like going to read a book at a coffee shop. May seem silly, but doing small things like this will help you feel like you are still connected to rest of the world.
Don’t fight your feelings – It’s normal to have lots of ups and downs, and feel many conflicting emotions, including anger, resentment, sadness, relief, fear, and confusion. It’s important to identify and acknowledge these feelings. While these emotions will often be painful, trying to suppress or ignore them will only prolong the grieving process.
Talk about how you’re feeling – Even if it is difficult for you to talk about your feelings with other people, it is very important to find a way to do so when you are grieving. Knowing that others are aware of your feelings will make you feel less alone with your pain and will help you heal. Journaling can also be a helpful outlet for your feelings.
Remind yourself that you still have a future – When you commit to another person, you create many hopes and dreams. It’s hard to let these dreams go. As you grieve the loss of the future you once envisioned, be encouraged by the fact that new hopes and dreams will eventually replace your old ones.
Cultivate new friendships. If you feel like you have lost your social network along with the divorce or breakup, make an effort to meet new people. Join a networking group or special interest club, take a class, get involved in community activities, or volunteer at a school, place of worship, or other community organization.
Avoid using alcohol, medicines, or food to cope. When you’re in the middle of a breakup, you may be tempted to do anything to relieve your feelings of pain and loneliness. But using alcohol, drugs, or food as an escape is unhealthy and destructive in the long run. It’s essential to find healthier ways of coping with painful feelings.
Make time each day to nurture yourself. Help yourself heal by scheduling daily time for activities you find calming and soothing. Go for a walk in nature, listen to music, enjoy a hot bath, get a massage, take a yoga class, or savor a warm cup of tea.
And remember to start loving yourself again…do pleasure things for your and stop blaming yourself for everything! 😉