January 11, 2016 Harriet Brookes

7 dont’s that end a relationship even before it begins…

Have you ever had a relationship and you ended before it ever began? Today we will speak about that kind of relationships who ended ingloriously almost from the first dates and the reasons why…

Relationships are hard. So hard, that sometimes we destroy them before they even come to be. There are some short, but VERY SHORT relationships we wonder why finished so early and actually even before the begging. Maybe we do things that keep the other person away from us? Let’s take a look at that points:

1.Being so much available. Don’t do it. NO. I know you want to be free whenever they are, but you are not at the mercy of their schedule. You have your own life, your own people to hang out with and you should stop trying to keep your entire evening free for them. You’re dating. Your relationship isn’t the one you have with food a.k.a it’s with you all the time.

2.Asking constantly to go out or hang out. Stop it. Breathe. Give each other space. If you’re going to spend every free minute with them, what do you have friends and an entire social life that existed before them for? There’s we time and me time. Make time for both.

3. Texting all the time. Another wrong step. Texting is great, sexting is great but excessive texting and you can say bye to your relationship. Like you, people are busy. Your partner isn’t going to have all the time in the world to get back to you.

4.Oversharing & overanalyzing. Stop reading too much into stuff and trying to decipher some non-existent double meaning.  From the first date until well into the early stages of the relationship, enjoy the process of discovering one another and realise there is a right time and place for sharing deeply intimate and private experiences, histories and feelings…

5. Declare that is the “One”. Finding the right partner for you is the most wonderful thing in life… but saying that from first dates is not a good way to impress the other…you are dating, not planning the rest of your lives together just yet. Those dates are to know each other as people. You’ll have plenty of time to find out if is the right for you…

6.Lie for any reason. There’s a difference between putting your best foot forward in the dating scene and lying to impress a new partner. Lying about yourself will only be a complication that will unravel, and undo the relationship. And yet it’s amazing how many white lies people will pile on to a new partner, hoping to appear to be a great catch.

7.Being critical and rude. This is the last but very important. If  you tend to be sour, critical, judgmental, sarcastic and generally negative stop it because it will finish the relationship for sure. If you have to say something negative, at least temper criticism with praise. Your new partner needs and wants to know they are with someone they can be happy with.

 

 

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