The first scaring feeling after a break up is the fear of loneliness. That’s why some people can’t get over a break up… they don’t want to stay alone… After all, the fear of being alone is one of the biggest reasons for people to get into relationships.
You may have thought that the most difficult thing you’ve ever had to do was to get out of bed the morning after your breakup. For some that may be the case and everything else is all downhill. For others, it’s facing all of this and dealing with the fallout when it feels as though your entire circle of friends or support system has been lost at the same time. That is a LONELY feeling. But you don’t have to let that feeling swallow you whole. You do have some options available to you. Perhaps it’s time for you to enjoy a change of pace or of scenery.
1.The first thing you need to do is go out and make new friends or surround yourself with all your friends.
Go out with your friends, make new contacts, even if you have to push yourself and try to go back to your life as it was before the relationship. If you make an effort to establish normalcy in your life, half the battle is won there itself. Some people even stay away from their friends after a breakup and this is a great mistake because it intensifies the feelings of loneliness.
2.Here’s also a fun thing you can do to get rid of your loneliness. Go out of your house and walk into any restaurant/movie theatre or bar that you see.
Going out on your own will boost your self esteem because you will not be scared of people judging you. At times, friends and family might fail to see your point of view because they all have their own theories of what they think is best for you. So, go ahead, introduce yourself to a couple of strangers and have a general conversation with them.
3.Don’t make your bed your best friend
After a breakup, your bed and couch will seem to be your best friends but do not get attracted to them. What you need is an active social life to deal with all the loneliness, not more seclusion.
4.Pick up a new hobby
Now could be a good time to do something that you have always thought of doing. Take dance lessons. Start a blog. Volunteer with the homeless. Before you know it you will forget all about old what’s his (or her) name.
5. Start chatting
A good idea is to make new contacts online. If you thing that is too early for new meetings, you can try online meetings and contacts. This is a good way if you want to get over your loneliness slowly and enjoyable…
6.Get a part time job
Make some extra money while you recover from your breakup. Get a seasonal job that will put you in a new environment and allow you to meet new people whom you might make friends with.
7. Stop thinking your ex and think yourself
Ιf you still feel lonely after a breakup even though you have done those things then the problem might be with proper recovering and not with loneliness. Some people mistake missing their Exes with loneliness. It’s a totally normal thing to miss your Ex occasionally after breaking up but if those feelings are always with you then this means that you haven’t properly recovered. In such a case you don’t have to work on getting your Ex back but you just have to analyze the reasons why you still miss that person and see if you can fulfill those needs in a different way. 😀 😉
