5 things to know before dating a successful woman

Men usually prefer dating with  not so smart and successful women… Let’s assume  dating dumb women is the best! I called a smattering of my male friends who explained why some men like dating girls who are less successful or intelligent than they are. Many men are intimidated by strong, successful women because males still think they need to be the head of the household. A lot of men feel a sense of competition with women who are in the workforce, even if they’re in different fields, working in different offices, doing different job duties. This can cause a rift in relationships, because relationships should be nurturing, and both partners should encourage each other in all aspects of life.

However, it has never been scientifically proven that men prefer beauty over brains. What we do know is that even the smartest women do some dumb things when it comes to love. 

But guys here are some things to know before dating a successful woman in case you are hesitant to move on a date with her:

1.She is  independent. Women who have their own career to focus on are independent in all aspects of their lives. They understand when you need to work overtime or, conversely, when you need time to yourself, or time with the guys. Successful women aren’t dependent on you, they don’t always need you around to entertain them or validate them. They have their own careers, their own money, their own friends, and they can manage it all on their own.

2.She will encourage you in your career. She want an equal partner. Because both of you are successful, driven, employed adults, you’ll need to split home chores evenly, so she will be able to help you out in that realm as well.

3.She will impress your friends & your boss. The stereotypical dream for guys is to have a wife who doubles as arm candy when you go out. This might impress superficial people, but imagine taking a gorgeous, shallow woman to a work event and introducing her to your boss. He asks her what she does and she can barely form a sentence. She can’t talk about current events over dinner. What if you could have a smart, successful woman, still attractive, of course…

4.She has real feelings for you. It is also good to know that she is with you because she wants to be, and not because she needs to be. This should make you feel good as a man since you know with certainty that you are not being used or taken advantage of.

5.She can support herself. You will be dating someone who is secure in herself and who is not relying on you to satisfy every single one of her needs.

Stay together… spending time apart…

You think because you are in a relationship  you have to do everything together? It’s nice doing things together but not all the time… You shouldn’t be defined by a relationship.  Sometimes we forget this and then it leads to obsession. You must not forget that you also have your own hobbies, likes and searches… Of course when you are in a relationship you need to spend time together but a little time apart only makes you appreciate each other more.

Spending time apart gives each person time to decompress, to be themselves and to be secure with their identity outside of the relationship. You definitely want your boyfriend to have some alone time and you should welcome the chance to relax alone yourself.

Do you remember when you were still getting to know each other and there was some mystery? Spending time apart not only allows you to miss each other more, but it also bring back some of the mystery to keep things interesting. It’s not healthy to always keep tabs on them and know where they are or who they’re with. If you were always with them and knew everything about them, you’d get bored fast.

Doing things about yourself. Sometimes you get so wrapped up in the other person that you forget about yourself. Taking a break from your partner will allow you to do the things you want to do. Even though you are a couple, you need to keep doing the things you did before you were with them. When you pick up hobbies that you can do solo, you’ll be able to bring home new skills that will wow your partner.

Less stress. Taking a break from your partner can be freeing because you won’t have to worry about them all the time. If you’ve been fighting with your partner, this is the perfect time for both of you to cool down and relax.

Achieve your goals. Remember that at the end of the day, you are the most important person in your life. Some time apart from your partner allows you to succeed in your career because you can devote more focus and energy to it. If your partner is understanding, they will be able to wait for you.

 Have more things to talk about. Both of you have lives outside the relationship. By not spending every waking second together, you’re experience things separately too. This will give you a chance to enrich your own lives, share stories with them and bring more to the relationship to make it better.

More time to spend with friends and family. They are also really important relationships in your life and should be treated as such. Your partner may be awesome, but they cannot fill in all your other relationships.

Your relationship needs to “breathe”. Spending time apart doesn’t help only you but also your partner and totaly your relationship so give time to you and to your partner and you will definately stay together…

 

First kiss & first date…

When you have your first date you have one question  that makes you wonder : to kiss or not to kiss? When should the first kiss happen on a date? How can you avoid rejection when going in for a kiss on a date? If you have been obsessing about this every time you are out on a date, maybe it is time to deal with the issue head on.

Kissing is sweet… and fun and exciting, especially when you are doing with someone you find   yourself attracted to. And yet the first date is really more about getting to know a persona rather than locking lips right away. Essentially whether or not to kiss depends on what your or your partner’s dating priorities are.

However if you are sure you want to kiss your partner on the very first date, the next thing to consider is whether he/she is equally eager to do so. To decide this you will need to look closely at your partner’s behavior through the evening. Is he/she constantly brushing against you with their hands, legs or thighs? If a woman is trying to make eye contact, batting her eyelids or fluttering her eyelashes at you, then chances are, she is trying to get you to read her willingness. All these are signs of flirtation and if a partner is unabashedly indulging them on a date, it is definitely a green signal to you to go ahead and plant that kiss.

The right time

First date kisses usually happen when the guy is dropping his partner off on her doorstep or she is saying good night in the car. Also it is conventional for the man to make the first move. If you are a guy, time your kiss well, so that your partner does not disappear indoors before you have been able to work up the courage to kiss her. On the other hand if you are a woman, take things slowly and don’t be in a rush to close the door on your guy’s face before he has had a chance to kiss you.

The progression to the kiss has to feel natural to both you and her. You have to build momentum and gradually create tension with physical contact throughout the date. It’ll be awkward if you haven’t even touched once and then suddenly go in for a kiss…

Tips for a perfect first kiss

1.A first kiss should not be too unexpected. You should first have tried a little touching, maybe of hands and of waist, and tried some eye contact – if they were comfortable with that, and did not pull away or look away, then they should be OK with being kissed. Asking for a first kiss can feel awkward, so mostly if the moment feels right just go for it. But if you feel that you should ask, don’t say “Can I kiss you ?”. Go with something like “What would you do if I kissed you right now ?”

2.Keep a first kiss easy and simple and enjoy it. And no food or gum in your mouth. Do not try rushing to prove you are a kissing expert…

3.There is no perfect time. It may be before the first date or it may not be until you have known each other for a few weeks. Moreover, even if the connection is there, she has to be willing to kiss you. You have to wait for everything – the attraction and the willingness – to line up perfectly.

4.She gets really close: There is a certain distance that women will keep when they are not ready to kiss you, but when they are ready, they will start to move closer to you – particularly in the upper region. So, if she leans in more than usual, or stands closer to you, or somehow makes sure her face is ridiculously close to yours, then go in for the kiss.

5.Lick her lips: This is a sign that she is focused on her lips – and she doesn’t focus on her lips unless she is focused on using her lips for something, like a kiss. Plus most people lick their lips when they are getting ready for a first kiss.

 

How to spot a “serial dater”…

Have you ever heart the phrase “serial dater”? What exactly means? A serial dater is a person who has a large number of short term romantic, physical or sexual relationships, but seems unable to commit or remain in a romance relationship for any length of time… Serial daters replace the comfort and intimacy of a “serious relationship” with a patchwork of relationships, often getting physical relations or intimacy, excitement or variety, friendship, and companionship from different people. 

When you meet them, they will tell you that they really don’t warm up to a lot of people, but they feel such a connection with you and would like to get to know you better. They chat you up on instant messenger or text constantly for a couple of weeks and then bam, nothing.

 However, serial daters often use a number of different dating methods to attain their high level of social interaction with the opposite sex. In fact, any new type of dating technique is an opportunity to seek romance and companionship. Serial daters might use different types of dating relationships such as online dating, one night phone dating, traditional bar dating, phone dating, spid dating, blind dating or expiration dating e.tc.

We  compiled a list of all of the ways that can tell us if  someone is a serial dater:

1.Anything but relationship: While serial daters might at first seem to give your relationship a lot of attention, this will disappear after the initial excitement phase. They will fail to follow through on promises to call or arrange to get together – other people or activities always seem to be more important.

2.Love sex. Serial daters are more interested in pursuing sexual pleasure than in nurturing an emotional intimacy that includes sex. Doesn’t seem too interested in getting to know you and steers the conversation always to sex in any chance…

3.Interests focused just around money.  This is another sign that could be a serial dater. What type of date it go on or how expensive or inexpensive it is? This are things that a serial dater cares about…The diary of a serial dater is always ‘too full’ to commit to a definite date with you. Must be the world’s busiest person, because can’t seem to commit to anything more than a few hours in advance.  Worst case scenario might even make plans and cancel at the last minute.  Loves to talk about his work above all other topics.  The reason behind this is that they are married to their jobs, which is why they aren’t married to a person).

4.They always know the latest buzz on where the trendy bars and restaurants are– often even before they are open (the serial dater is always more excited to be seen at hot spots than spending time with someone he could potentially share his life with).

5.You’ve spotted on several different online dating sites. Online dating is inexpensive these days giving people the opportunity to keep their options open. Look out for people who have joined many sites and not just one dedicated site. Also if you insist him/her removes  profile from where you met after a couple of dates, don’t be surprised if this person signs up somewhere else.
6.He checks out other women in front of you. This has got to be the worst type of serial dater and especcialy we refer to men serial daters. He hasn’t managed to tame his roving eye. To him the world is forever his oyster. So even whilst he is out with you he is considering his other options. Beware if he is also overly flirtatious and charming with the other ladies while he’s with you.

If you see a number of these traits popping up… keep your calm down..you are in front of a serial dater. Don’t run away with your thoughts, and if needed, move on quickly…

 

Things usually hidden on dating profiles

Some people believe that dating sites is a dangerous way to meet new people because usually people who are hidden below online profiles are fake or they lie about their real life…

In a recent study conducted at Cornell University and the University of Wisconsin-Madison it was discovered (no surprise here) that 80 percent of people using online dating sites lied about their height, weight, or age.

Here are some of the things that usually people hide from their online profile:

1. Age. Is the most common thing that usually men and women are hide on their dating profile. More often than not they ‘ re likely older than they are. Although some varied their dates of birth by as much as ten years, the highest percentage of liars erased or added only a year or two.

2Height. Both sexes tell tall tales, but men are more than twice as likely to (literally) stretch the truth. Women prefer tall men and that’s why men lied about their height. But also women will say they are two inches taller than they actually are, and will assume you’re not going to bring a tape measure to the first date. Don’t forget that heels make good work on it…

3. Job. Usually, this something that  men hide from their profiles. Most men have a tendency to inflate their titles or responsibilities in order to impress women. So br careful, speccialy with some titles that say they have. That “founder and CEO” title might just mean he’s working on a business plan.

4. Physique- weight. If it seems like the majority of men on dating sites describe themselves as “athletic and toned,” your eyes aren’t fooling you—though the guys may be hoping that description will. Photos and activities are better gauges of how in shape your fellow onlie dater is (although as you’ll soon see, be careful there as well). Aslo women say that they have perfect body and they are like models…Maybe will post photos of themselves from when they are looking their physical best. But the pessimist in me leans toward warning you that they may be a bit heavier than you imagined.

5. Hobbies and Interests. Some people claiming to have luxurious or exotic-sounding hobbies, when in actuality they aren’t actively practicing. He may say he loves to travel but that doesn’t guarantee he’s ever left from his country…

6. Relationship status. Maybe they claim to be single but in actuality are married or in a relationship. Even if people makes theirself available on a dating site it doesn’t necessarily mean ther’re there to seriously date. Single can mean anything from “haven’t had a girlfriend/boyfriend in five years and looking for sex” to “newly divorced and sad.

10 right ways texting a women…

You just met a women… you had a nice conversation with her and she gave you her phone number or even more  you met a girl online and you want to talk her…You’re left alone with your phone with her number inside or with your pc thinking about her and wondering…

Seducing women is always a challenge, especially when words are your only tools. With texting you’re not conveying any of these subtle visual messages. Your expressiveness and personality are relegated to the characters available from your cellphone/pc  keypad …

Most guys are clueless when it comes to texting. ans so If you want to learn the right way and what  to text a girl, just use these tips on how to text a girl you like and you’ll see how easy it really can be…

1.First smart text. If you want to know how to text a girl for the first time, don’t think too much of it. Just keep it casual and simple. “Hey! Just thought I’d say hi!” is simple and just one of several ways to initiate a first text with a girl you like.

2.Pick a time to text her. Don’t text a girl you like all day long. If you know her routine, text her only when you know she’s free to text you back. Believe it or not, timing every text before sending it would be vital in this department.

3.Make her like you. This you can afford by writing romantic words, make her comlimemts or  teasing her a little. That shows that you’re confident in yourself and can help build attraction between the two of you. Similarly, it’s also a good idea to make fun of yourself. This can make her laugh, open up to you, and make her feel comfortable around you.

4. Ask questions. Women love to talk about themselves, and it’s no different for text messages. Instead of saying “what’s up?” start the conversation with a message like “so how much trouble are you getting into tonight?”

5.Keep it short and simple. Try to keep the texts short if you want to keep the conversation going. Your focus is to get her to keep all her attention on you when she’s texting.

6.Be interested in her and her daily life. Ask her about her day. Be interested in her life and let her know that you’re always interested in knowing more about her while texting each other. It’ll help her open up.

7.Don’t flirt all the time. Even if she knows you like her already, avoid flirting with her on every single instance. It’ll just bore her if all you do is flirt with her. Except of flirting her text about everyday activities and let her see that you’re interested in knowing more about her and her life. You should flirt just enough to show her you’re interested, but don’t go overboard or she’ll want you to back off.

8.Watch your grammar. This may seem silly, but you should make sure to watch your spelling and punctuation before you text the girl. Girls don’t like id=f someone is not speaking or writing right.

9. Don’n try it too hard. Remember to be yourself and don’t go out of your way to say something that doesn’t even sound like you just because you think it will impress her

10.Know when it’s time to end the conversation. If you want to keep your girl interested, then you should stop your texting sessions at the right time, or she’ll get bored with your lengthy exchanges.

About 90% of women like to be contacted with a text message within two days of meeting a potential boyfriend… so don’t wait any longer or she might lose interest…

Dating your best friend: Reasons to do it…

Is there true friendship between men and women? Or sometime, someday a subconscious attraction will be created? Αnd what about dating your best friend? Many questions about one thing… the attraction between best friends!

There’s nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met, but lately, we’ve been wondering whether it’s better to date a friend, or at least somebody we’ve known longer than just a couple of weeks, and who knows more about us than just our name and phone number.

The transition from best friends to boyfriend and girlfriend worked on shows like Friends… and give us the possibility to fall in love your best friend and even more to get married him/her…

But which are the reasons of start thinking a dating with your best friend:

1.You already know what the other person wants. You already know each other. You know each other’s likes, dislikes, needs and desires. This is perfect material to date.You know well the way of his/her living and which are the priorities, the goals that has based on his/her character… so dating with your best friend it will much more easy than with everyone else… 

2.He’s familiar with your bad side. Let’s face it, during the first few months of dating someone new, it’s easy to hold yourself together and pretend like you don’t have a dark side… As a friend, will not only be aware of your personal weaknesses, but  will know how to respond to them in a way that is constructive to the relationship and to your desire to improve yourself.

3.You’re comfortable with each other. It takes a few weeks (if not longer) to feel completely at ease with somebody new. When dating someone who started out as a friend, you can skip the neurotic “I need to impress him” phase and go straight to wearing no make up.

4.You can tell them anything. You know that you can tell your best friend anything, right? When you start dating each other, nothing should change, unless, of course, you let it change.

5.You know each other relationship past history. If you date your best friend, then one of the benefits would be that you already know about each other’s relationship history. You know what went wrong in the past, so you know what to avoid.

6.Having a lot in common. Of course, you and your best friend do have a lot in common. This is great, because now that you are dating, you can enjoy doing those things you have in common together.

7. Last but not least, won’t cheat you with your best friend. Obviously, this won’t happen because your dating is also your best friend… so you don’t have to worry about this. Great advantage!

 

7 dont’s that end a relationship even before it begins…

Have you ever had a relationship and you ended before it ever began? Today we will speak about that kind of relationships who ended ingloriously almost from the first dates and the reasons why…

Relationships are hard. So hard, that sometimes we destroy them before they even come to be. There are some short, but VERY SHORT relationships we wonder why finished so early and actually even before the begging. Maybe we do things that keep the other person away from us? Let’s take a look at that points:

1.Being so much available. Don’t do it. NO. I know you want to be free whenever they are, but you are not at the mercy of their schedule. You have your own life, your own people to hang out with and you should stop trying to keep your entire evening free for them. You’re dating. Your relationship isn’t the one you have with food a.k.a it’s with you all the time.

2.Asking constantly to go out or hang out. Stop it. Breathe. Give each other space. If you’re going to spend every free minute with them, what do you have friends and an entire social life that existed before them for? There’s we time and me time. Make time for both.

3. Texting all the time. Another wrong step. Texting is great, sexting is great but excessive texting and you can say bye to your relationship. Like you, people are busy. Your partner isn’t going to have all the time in the world to get back to you.

4.Oversharing & overanalyzing. Stop reading too much into stuff and trying to decipher some non-existent double meaning.  From the first date until well into the early stages of the relationship, enjoy the process of discovering one another and realise there is a right time and place for sharing deeply intimate and private experiences, histories and feelings…

5. Declare that is the “One”. Finding the right partner for you is the most wonderful thing in life… but saying that from first dates is not a good way to impress the other…you are dating, not planning the rest of your lives together just yet. Those dates are to know each other as people. You’ll have plenty of time to find out if is the right for you…

6.Lie for any reason. There’s a difference between putting your best foot forward in the dating scene and lying to impress a new partner. Lying about yourself will only be a complication that will unravel, and undo the relationship. And yet it’s amazing how many white lies people will pile on to a new partner, hoping to appear to be a great catch.

7.Being critical and rude. This is the last but very important. If  you tend to be sour, critical, judgmental, sarcastic and generally negative stop it because it will finish the relationship for sure. If you have to say something negative, at least temper criticism with praise. Your new partner needs and wants to know they are with someone they can be happy with.

 

 

The “bible” of dating skills…

Here we gathered the basic dating skills for a successful date… consult them whenever you have a date in case you want to amaze!

Lets’s find out which is our dating skills bible:

1.Asking someone for a date. Choose an appropriate person for you to ask. If the person responds positively, choose a day and time…Don’t hesitate… take the risk…

2. Then, you need to prepare yourself for dating. Do not commit to your date half-heartedly. Once you have decided to date, start to know about your own self first and feel confident about the way you are. Confidence brings a charm in your personality.

3.Dress up for the occasion and try to look the best you can. If you expect your date to look glamorous and attractive, the same is expected of you too.

4.Never forget to wear a pleasant smile on your face. Smile lights up the face and makes you more approachable and attracts people towards you.

5.Always compliment your date. However, make sure that the compliments are genuine. Paying compliments shows that you have noticed your date and like certain things about them.

6.Accepting compliments. Acknowledge the compliment by: a. Saying how it made you feel or b. Stating your feeling about the item that was complimented

7.Finding common interests. Ask the person what activities or hobbies they enjoy.  Tell about the activities or hobbies you enjoy and try to find a common interest.

8.It is very necessary to keep the conversation alive. Take the initiative to talk and never allow awkward silences hit between you two. Also, make sure that the conversation is light and enjoyable and avoid any unpleasant topics that might make your date uncomfortable.

9.Be honest with yourself and develop a type of confidence that you’re a person who is worth getting to know better. Respect yourself and refrain from immature ways like blowing your own horn or fabricate stories or experiences just to make yourself more appealing.

10. Past experience is often the most useful teacher. Use lessons learned on previous dates when dating potential love interests. Think about what behaviors the dates you enjoyed seemed to appreciate, or what topics tended to make them lose interest in the conversation.