Things you should know about dating a divorced man

Most people think that dating with divorced people is not such a good idea… but dating may not only be limited to singles or the desperate out there. People recently separated or going through a divorce may also be on the dating scene. If you find yourself interested in dating a divorced man, here are some things that you need to consider.

Divorced man getting into the dating scene may have different reasons for doing so after a failed marriage. If you are about to date a divorced man, it pays to uncover what his motives are. Recently divorced men are not getting into the dating scene in order to start a new relationship. A lot of them are into it for fun. They may not always be keen on starting another relationship challenge after going through the trauma of a divorce. Women should try to determine whether the motives for dating are similar to their own.

Understanding why the man divorced is a must if you think that your relationship may go from casually dating to serious. It’s not bad asking him why his marriage failed. Ask what he learned from the relationship and what he wants in the future from a potential partner. But although you should make yourself available for him to talk to, don’t try to play the role of therapist.

Divorce is a major life change that may affect many areas of life. Show understanding when it comes to his lifestyle changes. This may mean showing flexibility when he needs to handle a new situation. For example, instead of expecting that he’ll take you out every Saturday night, understand that some weekends are only for his kids…


One more thing you need to understand is that his ex-wife will always be apart of his life story. He may still be in contact with his ex or he may have friends and family that are still in contact with her. Even if he has no contact with his ex, you may run into people when you are out together that bring up his ex or ask him questions about the divorce.

Also, a divorced man may be more cautious or even opposed to the idea of getting married again. This may be especially true if he went through an ugly divorce. If this is the case with the guy you are interested in, the important thing is to not push him.

If you want the relationship to be successful, the last thing you’ll want to do is to compare yourself to his ex-wife. Don’t ask about how she was in bed or how she treated him in the happier days. A divorced man doesn’t want to think about these things.

These are all clear signs of jealousy and you’ll want to work those out between you and your new partner. Keeping tabs on a woman he no longer desires to be with only makes things harder for you.

Finally, the best thing to do, is to give him time and space to clear his mind, and probably focus on being friends. If it’s meant to be special eventually, you’ll be the first one to know…


Top essential online dating tips

We gather all the best tips for the right and successful online dating for you. Follow carefully this steps and you will have the perfect online date 100%.

Online dating requires some courage and thoughtful planning. Use these tips to help navigate the realm of online dating. The reward at the end could very well be meeting that someone special you’ve been looking for.

As we always say…Create a compelling but honest profile. As tempting as it may be, don’t lie about your background or personality when you write your profile. “Honesty shows confidence and integrity. Somewhere down the line, the lie will come back to hurt you.

Avoid disclosing too much at once. Gradually reveal details as you get to know someone. And don’t post photos that are overly sexy. 😳 

Be prepared to reject and be rejected. “Don’t take a ‘No’ response from others personally. They could want someone who is a different age or lives in a different region. At the same time, feel free to say no to people you don’t want to meet

Google your potential dates. Don’t hesitate to search someone’s name on Google or social media such as Facebook or Twitter. “You can learn a lot. Often, people will put pictures on Facebook that look a lot different from the online dating photo. You’ll also learn about what interests them and who their friends are.



Don’t ignore the smaller sites. “Smaller niches with your interests are usually better because they don’t have quite as much of the ‘meat market’ feel”.

Choose the suitable site for you. A site that gives you matches might be good for someone consistently attracted to the wrong person.” If you prefer having control over your choices or know which qualities will or won’t suit you, you might prefer sites that let you choose whom to contact.

Get verifiable details through emails before you meet, such as a phone number. Use the site’s email system, not your private email – it can be traced back to you.

When you feel ready to meet, still remember that you’re meeting a stranger. If you’ve had a long period of email and phone exchanges, don’t be lulled into a false sense of familiarity or security.

Let a friend know who you’re meeting (provide the verifiable details you’ve collected such as their phone number), where you’re meeting, how to reach you and when you’ll be home.

How to settle arguments with your mate…

They say relationship without argument is half and empty… and i think it’s truth. Every couple has had at least one argument. Disagreements between partners are bound to happen on a long enough timeline. The thing is when you’re in a relationship and are spending that much time with another person the chances are you’re going to argue…

I cant say for sure that is easy to handle an argument especcialy an argument with your mate but I’ve learned some useful tips that have made me better at dealing with arguments and i am sharing them with you  😉 

1.I’ve got a tone problem, and chances are that when you’re upset, you do too. It’s okay, because it’s something you can work on. When people get into conflicts,they tend to become louder, or sound a bit more hostile than they usually do. I become very monotonous and condescending, for other people maybe it’s a sudden uptick in how sarcastic they are. Whatever it is, just know that your tone has probably changed. It may be involuntary, so try to dial it back as much as possible. Of course, you can always tell your partner you’re upset and you’re sorry about your tone. I’ve found that works wonders.

2.Focus on purposeful communication

When you’re communicating during an argument, make sure everything you say has a purpose. That purpose should be an understanding of what the issue is, steps that can be taken to prevent the issue or minimize it, and eventually a resolution. Any other conversation will lead to a circular argument.

3.Don’t make it about winning

Arguments in relationships are not debates, they are the means to resolving issues that have gotten past the point of simple conversation. The thing is, no one wins in argument. Don’t try to make an argument a winnable thing, because it’s not and ultimately unhealthy.

4.Be patient

You’ve probably heard the common piece of advice on arguing “Never go to bed angry” well I’m here to tell you that it’s sort of true. I would say that it needs a little clarification, never go to bed angry, but don’t be afraid to revisit an issue if you think it’s not resolved. By all means, get your rest, but don’t rush toward a resolution because you’re tired. Call a timeout.

5.Dont go back on past issues.

If you’re like most couples, you’ve probably had more than one disagreement during your relationship. Maybe some of those issues still bother you, which is fine, just be sure that when you’re arguing you’re focused on your current issue. If you want to address why your boyfriend refuses to put the seat down after a year of dating, do it another time.

6.When arguing, it’s easy to turn the argument from being issues based to attacks on the person. It’s a natural response and it’s hard to separate the issue from the person who you have an issue with. I try to avoid making things personal is by trying  to de-personalize any  declarative statements. Instead of saying “You did this..” I would try saying “This happened..”. It might not seem like much, but making the issue seem more focused on a behavior and less on theirbehavior is crucial to eventually finding a resolution.

7.Use open body language. When discussing your conflict, use your body language to demonstrate that you are open to dialogue. This can allow the discussion to happen in a relaxed, effective way.

Signs if he likes you…

Are you “dying” to know if he likes you? You can’t explain exactly his feelings and you wanna know what he really feels about you. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge but if you want to know if a guy likes you, you have to pay attention to what he says and what he does when you’re hanging out. So here are some important signs showing  you that a guy likes you:

1. He calls and texts you a lot – if a guy or man is quite interested in you, he will make any excuses to call you so he can talk to you even for a couple of minutes. He will also send you simple greeting messages on your mobile phone such as good morning, good night, etc

2. He knows every detail about you – when a guy has a special feelings on you, he will make his own research about you. He may ask information with your mutual friends about your favorite color, food, place, birthday, and many more. Through that information he can think better idea on how to win your heart or attention.

3.  He loves to surprise you – he may give you simple gifts to surprise you such as flowers, chocolates, etc.

4. He will ask you to go on a date with him – no matter how shy he is, if he really likes you he will definitely ask you for a date. He will do this so he can spend time to know you better.

5. He will confess his true feelings for you – when he gain enough confidence or guts, he will surely tell you that he likes you. But, he will only say those words if he can see that you also like him. It is because he might afraid of rejection. In short, he will wait for the perfect timing before he will tell you that he likes you so much.

6.Guys love embarrassing each other, so if you walk into the room and you see his best mate nudging him and laughing it translates into “he is in love with you”

7.He compliments you or gives you unexpected gifts just because… it can be a box of chocolate, flowers or anything…unexpected gifts are definitely signs that a guy likes you.

8.When he ‘can’t get his eyes out of you’, just notice, does he look at you whatever you do and when you look up he looks down or away?

9.Another sign that he is into you and he wants to go further with you is when he opens up to you about his family, this way the guy, kind of, exposes himself to you.

10.If a guy lets you know about his personal life…and you never asked…he let’s you know that he is single and he show you thst he want to go on a relationship…


10 tricks how to talk to a woman on the phone…

Women  think that the way to connection with a guy they are dating is to share information though talking. This is why when there is a hesitation in the conversation she asks, “What are you thinking about?” If you say nothing, she believes you are hiding something. For the guy who is good at talking, this way of connecting in order to build a deep and meaningful relationship is no problem. But, for the guy that finds talking about his thoughts and feelings difficult, this approach to building a deep and meaningful relationship can be a real nightmare!

Are you a man that finds it difficult to talk to women on the phone or generally not so good on discussions? There are tips and tricks you can use to learn how to talk to a girl and especcially how to talk her on the phone…

1.Before you even begin to call a girl, you want to make sure your own voicemail is setup. You want to make sure she hears something that inclines her to leave a voice message if you don’t pick up

2.It’s important to have a reason for calling. When you get on the phone, you want to get to the point so as not to waste her time. Be honest about why you’re calling. Are you calling to ask for a date? Knowing what you want to say can reduce nervousness.

3.One method of finding common ground for starting a conversation is to do a little research on her. You can check out her social media pages to learn more about her. You also need to realize that some women are private and don’t use social much or at all.

4.The best days to call a girl is from Sunday – Wednesday. Thursday – Saturdays are normally days where people go out and socialize. You’ll more likely to seem like a loner if you call her for an hour long conversation on a Saturday night. In addition, you’re more likely to reach her voicemail on the weekends.

5.Revel in the silences and have complete confidence in them. When you are able to do this, you will find girls are far more likely to make more of an effort. The silences are there for her to put more effort in the conversation, so stop rushing to fill them up with a nervous laugh or a lame question, which will make her complacent will have her just sitting back and expecting you to do all the work. A man who is comfortable with silences always demonstrates a certain amount of strength.

6.If she is busy, ask her when you should call back. If she can talk now, then ask about her day or tell her why you called. If you want to ask for a date, ask her out during the first few minutes of the call. This lets her know that asking her out is a priority and not an afterthought.

7.As you talk, remember to breathe so you sound relaxed. Don’t talk to fast, too slowly or too much.You will be able to impress her if you talk softly and sweetly on the phone. Don’t be loud and don’t get aggressive. It’s also important to listen to what she says and not to interrupt her. Being polite instead of rude will make a good impression. If you are naturally sarcastic, try to keep these types of comments to a minimum.

8.Don’t try to force the conversation in a particular direction. Also, realize that it takes two people to make a good phone call. She has to do half the work, so don’t feel as though it’s all on you.

9.Women are attracted to men who can connect with them on an emotional level rather than just a superficial one. She will NOT be attracted to you just because you too like to go to the gym… Although having things in common can initially help keep the conversation moving, it does not necessarily mean that you are going to be making much impact on her.

10.You cannot call her randomly any time of the day. Nor can you call her twenty times in a day. What you must do, however, is know when you can call her. It could be in her lunch break, or when she is travelling back home from work or late at night.


8 ways flirting a shy & sensitive girl

Flirting is an easy game for you… may think of yourself as a flirting expert… but sometimes flirt is more difficult than you think.  The truth is that flirting is a very playful act therefore, it is inherently more challenging to flirt with a girl who is considered sensitive and shy…

Although most girls today are more confident than before, some girls are still shy and more sensitive. If you’re interested in a sensitive girl, flirting with her might be a little more difficult. She might give you a hint that she’s interested but not enough to make you notice. So take some time to understand her actions and be patient with her…

Here are some tips on how you can flirt a shy & sensitive girl:

1.Firstly, don’t make any move if you are a one night stand type… sensitive and shy women are more in touch with their feelings and they prefer to get involved in a meaningful relationship. Only when there is a possibility for an actual relationship should you try to go in pursuit of that girl.

2.Let her know she can talk to you anytime. That girls don’t like overconfident guys. They easily get intimidated with guys like this. Once you got the chance to talk to her, make her feel that she can always talk to you every time she wants to. Instead of talking about yourself, let her speak and learn how to listen.

3.Engaging in a deep conversation with her. This  will make her feel that you really are interested and that you have no time to play games. Also, don’t try to approach her if she’s with her friends. This will make her feel intimidated. Instead, approach her when she’s alone and when she’s not doing anything.

4.Respect and compliment her. When flirting with a sensitive and shy girl, avoid teasing her. Although your intention is to flatter her, for her, it will seem like you’re being disrespectful.

5.Use traditional ways flirting with her. Sensitive girls are impressed by noble and romantic gestures. A bouquet of roses, a love letter or a love confession…

6.Compliment her on a personal, physical feature, in a non-sexual way. You can compliment your shy girl on her hair, smile, unique laugh, sense of humor, eyes, her freckles, etc.

7.Be patient. Patience is your key when flirting with that type of  girl. Remember that it’ll take some time before she finally decides to open up to you. The best thing to do is to just let her feel secure. Let her know your true intentions and allow her to be comfortable with you.

8.Keep at it. You may have to chat up and smile at a shy & sensitive girl more than a non-shy  girl before she gets the hint that you like her and are flirting with her.