10 “good spots” of dating in your 40’s

I know! Dating is difficult for everyone, especialy as the years pass by… either if you are a woman or a man  the standars of dating are changing when you are 40…

For men is a little beat easier. A man at 40’s is still able to pick up his dates, to enjoy it more without stress, and avoid relationships as he things he is still young for things like that… On the other hand for ladies is much more complicated…  It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man. Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.

However dating in 40’s still can be very enjoyble and sometimes much more better than a dating in your 30’s because you have the maturity to organize it better and behave smarter… The truth is that dating does change when you get older…and in many ways, for the better. 

Let’s find out why…

1.You don’t waste your time in unmatched dates.You’ve figured out what traits and lifestyles just don’t work for youYou know what you want and what type of person you are attracted…

2.Men and women in their 40s  generally more self-assured. They know what they want out of a relationship, what they are looking for in a mate and are not afraid to ask for it. 

3.You have learned from your previous relationship experiences. You can take inventory of what time has taught you so that you do not fall into old traps. Knowing yourself better and being able to size up others more skillfully gives you a big advantage.

4. You likely have greater financial freedom to enjoy fancy dinners and getaways. The days of scraping together enough money for a movie are over!

5.Romance is more enjoyableYou are more sexually confident and liberated than you were in your youth.

6. You have figured out what is important. You can put away the “list” of perfect characteristics that you are seeking in your date. Physical appearance, the type of car one drives and other status symbols take a back seat to more important personal attributes.

7.There is no ticking of the biological clock. Without the pressures of getting married and having children, you can enter into relationships for the “right” reasons, not because you are running out of fertile years.

8.You are known what you’re doing on bed. Now you have the experience to enjoy it more…

9.You are a pro at keeping your own identity. You don’t have to worry about losing yourself in a relationship—losing your friendships, your career drive, your ability to carve out personal time—because you’re a pro at doing you. So you can date with confidence…

10.You realized time is precious. Now that your life is about half way over, you’ve come to terms with the fact that you won’t live forever. It’s something we say we know in our 20’s but we don’t really factor it into our decisions. If you had, think of all the people you wouldn’t have wasted time on! Now, you’re acutely aware that time is precious and you’re determined to spend it with the right people…



Body language “talks” to you on a date…

When you meet someone for first time you are curious to learn everything about… you feel atractive… your eyes talk each other and this means that you use the body language to say what you really feel and what you want… Body language is so important when it comes to dating. It has the power to tell the other person whether you’re totally into them, or totally over them.

Body language is amazing. A light arm touch here, a coy smile there and you’ve given the game away that you fancy the other person…

On a first date, it can send signals to your date whether you are interested or not. If you are interested in your date and wish to make a good impression on a first date, then you should try to show it with your body language. 

Let’s learn together some body language tips and discover this way if your date interested about you.

Eyes talk to you. Give away more signals than any other body part, look out for these subtle indicators to understand what your date is thinking:
– A physiological response to genuine attraction is pupil dilation, the only problem is this may not always be easy to spot in a low lit bar or restaurant.
– If his gaze is largely focused on your body, you know he’s assessing your sexual appeal, but if his focus is on your eyes and face he’s more likely to want a relationship with you.
– If interested his eye contact will increase throughout the date, but if his gaze wanders and he starts taking in the rest of the room you can assume he’s getting bored.

A smile can say a lot. Next to eye contact a smile is the most important non-verbal sign we sent out or receive on a date. It is our reaction to any pleasurable stimuli and is a no-brainer. A blank face or forced smile in response to your jokes is discouraging. Smiles can also tell you a lot about what people are thinking and may be easier to read in a dark bar or restaurant.

It’s all in the lipsLicking the lips is another come-hither seduction move,specially for guys when they want to understand what exactly the lady who is front of them wants. If she keeps licking her lips even after you’ve begun a conversation, the night is looking bright. And, rubbing an ice cube or any other item slowly over her lips is a body language cue that points to definite action later in the night.

Touching. I think it’s obvious that when a guy touches you, it’s a sign that he is flirting with you. If a man  try to touch or caress hands of a woman in first date this means that he like her a lot … Whether this means playing footsy under the table, brushing your hand as you pass the salt or holding your arm as he helps you out of a cab gives you the signs what he feels…

The Alpha male. All guys hope to be the alpha male and if they aren’t they will pretend to act like one, probably under the impression that girls are fond of macho stuff. Whatever! Watch out for the alpha male behavior, such as puffing out his chest, or a pronounced strut or swagger in his walk. That’s definitely a body language sign of flirting!

And finally one more advice… don’t underestimate body language… entrust her… always sends the right messages…


3 ways to get over Christmas loneliness

Christmas are coming soon… and many of you feel alone either because you are single or  you had a bad break up…

It’s not uncommon for singles to feel depressed during the holiday season…  There are a lot of people who feel lonely and unhappy during this time of the year. Their loneliness may come from loss of loved ones through death, separation by physical distance, or through breakups. Other reasons may be that person is anti-social or too busy to participate in this festive season. You can feel alone even when surrounded by others, but when you are single – divorced, never married, widowed – loneliness can be a heavy burden, especially during the holidays. 

If you feel lonely and unhappy during the holiday season, here are some tips on how to deal with loneliness — and how to make your Christmas holiday merrier.

1.Join a club or group

This is a very good idea if you want to do new things… You can join up with a club or a group and meet other  people.

Whether playing an instrument, learning a new skill or playing a sport, there will always be others just like you who are seeking someone to share their hobbies with. Find them…

2. Organize a trip or a night out

Organise a night out or an event with some friends or  plan a trip is a clever way to get over Christmas loneliness. You will have the change to meet new peolpe, to see different places, to visit a museum, to watch a show or a concert… You are increasing the chances of developing an exciting new social circle.

3.Embrace online dating

This is no longer the scary scene it was perceived to be a few years ago. Now that most of us use social media on a daily basis, the stigma of using the internet to find love has virtually disappeared.

There are many great (and free) dating websites that are worth trying out and most of these sites have apps that you can install on your phone. It’s even been reported that as many as 50% of relationships now start online, so what have you got to lose?





3 online dating mistakes

Are you fan of dating sites? You have already became  a member and you want to know how you will succeed… Maybe you don’t have the experience but even if you have, you should be very carefull…

Online dating is now the second-most common way couples meet, with 30 to 40 percent of singles.  Dating online has its own set of rules! If you’re looking to take your online love offline, don’t make these three critical mistakes:

1.Get Offline Quick!

Don’t chat or email online for too long. Instead take your new romance offline quickly. The progression of your communication should go something like this: an initial online contact, a phone conversation, an offline date.

If you start spending too much time chatting online or exchanging emails, one of two things tends to happen: you either establish an artificial level of comfort way too quickly and end up going out as “friends,” or you just don’t end up going out at all. 

Finally, to debunk a huge myth, if a woman is into you or attracted to your profile, she will give you her number if you ask! There’s this interesting “phenomenon” I keep hearing about where guys think they need to build comfort with a woman first, before she will give out her number. This only applies if she’s not really into you. 

2.Pictures: Quality and Quantity Count!

Don’t put too many or too few photos on your profile. Too many pictures “screams”, “I spent way too long making this profile and needed to share absolutely every single type of moment in my life!” Sharing too few photos though makes it seem like you just don’t care.. You need at least three pictures and definitely no more than five or six. Most importantly, make sure they’re recent!

3.Don’t be Lazy.

Respond to your messages!  You mustI love getting online messages and  respond to every single one, even if it’s a polite way to let the nice man on the other end of that computer screen know you  just not interested. However, you should not responding to messages from people you’re actually into!  Even if it’s an honest reply along the lines of, “I had met someone else and chose not to date for a while.” The new object of your affection will appreciate the honest and hopefully reply within a few days.