March 7, 2016 Harriet Brookes

Money & Relationship: The big truth…

What does money have to do with relationships? Is it possible money to bring hapiness between two people?

Love and money are two things that individuals feel strongly about. A lot of relationships are started because of the need for either of these. For most people, money is never just money, a tool to accomplish some of life’s goals. It is love, power, happiness, security, control, dependency, independence, freedom and more.

Money has everything to do with relationships. The way you and your partner handle your money together will have a huge impact on the “health” of your relationship. When two people form a “partnership”, they start sharing their lives, their household, and sooner or later, their money. Money determines how you live, where you live, the places you visit, the experiences you have, and the quality of your life. Later when you have children, money affects the schools they go to, the vacations you take (or don’t take), and even the quality of health care you and them can access. 

When it comes to money, men tend to take more risks and don’t save for emergencies. Men use money as a scorecard and can struggle with self-esteem when there are financial problems.

Women tend to see money more as a security issue, so they will gravitate toward the rainy-day fund. Because of their need for security, ladies can have a level of fear—my wife, Sharon, calls it terror—when there are money problems. Men and women are different in how they view money, and it is largely because they process problems and opportunities from different vantage points.

Romantics claim money can’t buy love. Proving that, though, may not even be possible, since love is not as simple as arithmetic.

 It’s no wonder money is the topic couples fight about most often, since people with different values and experiences with money will hardly evercompletely agree about how to manage it. Even if two people have similar childhood backgrounds, their views on money could be dramatically different.

Ηοwever, while your and your partner’s views on money might not be so black and white, the first step is to see what money really symbolizes to each of you. Do you spend money as a sign of affection or to increase your happiness? Does having it make you feel successful or respected? Do you relate money with safety and security? 🙄  🙄 

 

 

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